gay ass little cape flip. might as well do it limp wristed. while prancing
Allow me to elucidate, @a-sour-nectarine
When most people "roll their eyes", they flick their eyes directly upward, usually as far as they comfortably go, then resume looking normally.
When someone who learned the phrase before the behavior does it, they usually go in a circular (ish) motion. Since most eye movements are lines, it's usually pretty triangular: the key points are usually a diagonal up one way, then to the far other side, then to a diagonal low the first way. Thus, the eyes basically make a loop, so they "rolled".
I've found that when people who learned the up-down way first try the circular motion, they might risk motion sickness, so experiment carefully.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN MOST PEOPLE JUST LOOK UP
IS THIS WHY PEOPLE THINK I’M ROLLING MY EYES WHEN I THINK AND LOOK UPWARD
characters who are absolutely convinced down to their bones that they are unlovable being subjected to the mortifying ideal of being wholly and unconditionally loved. that’s the good stuff. never get tired of it.
Anti kink people need to know that kink isn't only sexual. It's also a subculture. One built on community and trust.
Telling them to not attend pride just because of who they are goes against everything pride stands for.
We should be celebrating the diversity of our communities rather than trying to make it palatable to outsiders.
Why do kinky people have to leave, go build your own space rather than colonising an already existing space and forcing those that make you uncomfortable out of the space they spent decades building
Not even remotely kidding when I say that if you don’t fuck with the LGBTQIA+ community, I do not and will not fuck with you. Big ass love to all the queer folks out there. If you’re on my blog, you’re in a safe place.
When I take time away from tumblr to see what transphobic cis men have to say about trans men and people they perceive as trans men, I can’t help but notice similarities between what they say about us and what they used to say about feminists.
I’ve heard a dude go on an angry rant over a nonbinary person being featured in a men’s fashion magazine. But he made it very clear he did not understand the difference between a trans man and a nonbinary person who was afab, and he angrily claimed that we only want to be men because we think men are so privileged but we couldn’t handle the male gender role if we tried and would lose any fight we got in. It screamed “I’ve never met a trans person in my life” just as much as it screamed “I think trans men are the 21st century feminists I don’t like.”
I’ve also seen numerous fantasies about, essentially, wanting to “tame” us into being hot feminine cis women. Something that also existed years ago about feminists. It’s not just terfs who do this to us, it’s cis men too.
I think about the suffragette period of feminism and the anti-suffrage posters, how there was this idea of women taking the roles of men. It seems clear to me, there’s a lot of cis men who view trans men and those they mistake for us as the manifestation of this. When you view manhood as a competition with winners and losers and expectations, it starts making sense. People who were afab weren’t supposed to compete. If they do anyway and either win or don’t care about winning, it throws a bit of a wrench in their concept of what it means to be a man. Rather than look for other explanations, they decide instead to defend their notion of manhood from a perceived threat.
It’s something I think we should keep in mind when thinking about trans men’s position under cispatriarchy.
the saddest sight in the world is a married couple at a musical and the wife is super excited and happy and the husband looks like he was dragged along and he’s making a big deal about how much he doesn’t want to be there and the wife gets embarrassed or ashamed. this isn’t a funny post, it’s actually heartbreaking and i see it happen at like every other musical i attend.
Yeah, as an usher what makes me sad is when I see wives clearly dressed in their Sunday best, beaming and buying merch and smiling at me as I hand them a program, toting some guy dressed in jeans and a sweatshirt who declines a program. And that’s at least a quarter of the couples who come in or more. Like come on man, she really loves this stuff, can’t you try to enjoy it for her at least?
About as bad as when you see a big-eyed kid who looks like this is the greatest day of their life, all excited to see this show, and their parent/grandparent/aunt/Cousin/Friend/whoever they convinced to take them keeps making fun of them and saying how dumb or ridiculous they’re being. For Gods sake, this is a person you care about and this is a thing that means a lot to them. Smile, get off your phone, and be happy for them.
This goes for ANY loved ones’ interests. Doesn’t matter the interest, doesn’t matter the loved one. Example: my hubby loves airplanes. He works in the aviation industry. He basically has avgas flowing in his veins. No matter where we go on trips, he’ll find an aviation musuem. I don’t mind aircraft museums, but he will literally stop and take photos of rivets. Seriously. One time I was with him at the National Air and Space Museum and I had my nice DSLR camera and he asked if I could take some photos of the seams of the SR71 with “your good camera,” and you know what? It wasn’t my favorite subject to photograph, but I gladly did it because it made him happy.
BTW, we’ve been doing this for the 30+ years we’ve been together. He comes with me to symphonies and art galleries and lets me have the remote during hockey season to the point where he’s now a fan. I know he’s daydreaming about airplane engines a majority of the time, but he’s there and trying and I love that about him.
So yeah, be present for your favorite people and make an effort. It will pay joyful lifelong dividends you can’t begin to imagine.
I do not give a shit about yoga or education. My sister loves yoga, my mom is in love with her teaching job with her whole self. You better believe I will get excited about that shit. Least I can do for the amount of times they’ve listened to me fangirl various media properties.